There are too many things over which you have no control and the only thing you can do is to stop allowing them to make “dents” in your spirit.
Happiness is not something that others can take from you, but it is something that you would have to throw away on your own.
Of course, there will be times when things will not turn out the way you want them to. But, when they happen to the most loving, compassionate, careful and reasonable person, after the initial pain and shock, the decision whether or not to let yourself languish in despair is entirely up to you.
You are the only person that can allow misfortune to form the bulk of your life, or you can choose to leave what’s past in the past, and move on.
Friendly and caring behavior towards others, should not be motivated by the thought of equally kind and affectionate responses. Since, you understand yourself best, regardless of how reasonably and responsibly you live your life, there will be people who will not see your point of view or share your motivations.
People have the right to act in any way they see fit and you do nor have the right to judge whether their behavior is acceptable or not. They have to bear the responsibility for their own actions, and the same goes for you. By feeling sorry for yourself, you are simply continuing the work for them, long after they have dealt their blow! You have to decide that, you will not allow these people to disturb your mind.
There are many things for which you can be grateful of. There are yet unexplored experiences in which you can find enrichment and meaning and there are yet others, who will like you for who you are, and in spite of who you are. If you spend my time being resentful and miserable, you are denying yourself the satisfaction of enjoying what this life has to offer.
There are enough unhappy people in this world who punish themselves and others constantly, in a bid to find redress and compensation. There is no satisfaction in retaliation and revenge as it is a waste of time and spirit.
This is why: “To be happy we must not be too concerned with others.”-Albert Camus
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